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 on: July 13, 2016, 01:31:23 PM 
Started by spirit - Last post by marisol
Change is a huge part of life, often preceded by chaos. Walk through the chaos and embrace change. Maybe what changes won't be what we want, but it will be what we need. Others cannot make the decision for us. We can seek advice and be grateful for what is given, but in the end it's the individual that decides what is best. This is what helps us to become adults.

I don't always see my son as an adult, but he is. All of us who are parents have a great need at times to make all the bad things go away for our
children. When what they need most is emotional support to embrace change. I recently went through this with my son and I think we both learned alot about each other. We learned to respect each other as individuals who had both had to make decisions re: serious life changes. I think we both found what we needed.

 on: July 13, 2016, 11:52:32 AM 
Started by spirit - Last post by marisol
Nice Aloe Vera plant Drac. ;D

 on: July 13, 2016, 11:32:24 AM 
Started by lucifer - Last post by marisol
Welcome Melunia.  :)

 on: July 13, 2016, 11:26:22 AM 
Started by RavenHillWitch - Last post by Earthbound Spirit
Welcome aboard.

 on: July 13, 2016, 11:25:46 AM 
Started by silver flame13 - Last post by marisol
Welcome silver flame. Enjoy your journey where ever it may lead you.

 on: July 13, 2016, 11:24:55 AM 
Started by RavenHillWitch - Last post by RavenHillWitch

 on: July 13, 2016, 11:20:36 AM 
Started by RavenHillWitch - Last post by marisol
Welcome to TCC RHW. :) Enjoy your time with us.

 on: July 13, 2016, 10:14:28 AM 
Started by spirit - Last post by Amberhawk
Hmm... I have to wonder if there is a certain something Spirit is looking for but either just cant just flat out pinpoint or has trouble asking directly. If one grows in an environment where asking is rewarded with negative responses then one can stop asking and forget how to. It happens. I grew up in that sort of environment so I get it. I spent a good chunk of my 20s figuring that out.

The key is working through it and asking anyway.

You want to talk wisdom? That is combining experience and knowledge with the art of knowing when and how to speak up or if to just hush. That comes with experience, asking questions, observing and accepting that we can all sometimes get it wrong. Again, experience and being determined to learn from it when we are.

I do agree with Drac though, the whole point of learning is to gain the understanding, period. How you choose to use that understanding is very personal and individual. Hopefully we share in some way, be it by teaching or by just making choices that makes life a bit more bearable for others around us. Hopefully fewer will choose to cause some level of damages with it but that's to be expected from time to time. Not everyone has kind and generous notions but you really cant let that bother you. Try to do the best you can for you and let others have the chance to do the same. Push comes to shove, if someone around you is an unrepentant jerk and horribly negative, you can bid them a fond fair well so you can do better for yourself and hope they will eventually figure out how to do the same for themselves.

 on: July 13, 2016, 08:54:41 AM 
Started by spirit - Last post by Amberhawk
In response to Spirit's comments on honor, I have to wonder just what some people think honor and respect actually are sometimes. Some seem to not get it. So much in this world could be settled if they did. To honor an respect someone is to not badmouth someone or swear at them. This includes one's self. Listen and consider carefully what they say before deciding how to respond while keeping in mind that you don't have to agree and follow what's said. If you need to say something then be honest, that can be done without being cruel but I don't see that being too big of an issue with what I've seen posted by you, Spirit. Live as healthy of a life as possible. Where family and especially parents are concerned it can get really difficult to hold your tongue and sometimes just doing what they want instead of what you need to do seems easiest. That isn't really respectful to you and because you cant honor what you are inside that way you could fall onto such an unnecessary path of unhappiness and hardship.

As a mother I can see sometimes what I want for my son isn't anywhere near what he wants for himself and I have to just keep my mouth shut out of respect and honor for him and his needs and capabilities. Those are his choices and I couldn't possibly be honoring myself or him by muscling him around. What makes him happy in life choices is what I'm supporting. I'll ask him if he's considered consequences on things and we do still talk about those but over all his choices are his.

All that said, everyone has a right to choose their life's directions. Just because the family is into one business doesn't mean the children are meant to follow in that same business. How many times do we here of parents, particularly mothers, pushing kids to excel in school and prep for collage to be doctors and lawyers? It was a huge thing back in the 80's and 90's from what I remember. In many cases that is clearly not what the child in question is geared for and it creates a huge amount of unhappiness for that child as they grow into adulthood. Figure out where your talents are and follow those. Explore, experience, and choose wisely. Even then, there isn't any written law or rule anywhere that says you have to stay on that path. Change is part of life. Take another path, cut out your own path. Do it with honor and respect towards yourself and those you meet when doing so and you'll be happier with yourself in the end.

 on: July 13, 2016, 02:42:57 AM 
Started by spirit - Last post by Draconis Rex
The whole point of learning is to GAIN understanding. Teaching is offered but it is up to the recipient to receive and /or accept that teaching with good grace; in this place no return is expected, but we do hope that it is appreciated and even carried on to others who seek. As for the charity of our people here, I'm sure many of them give as they can in any way that they can and it is not for you or anyone else to challenge that. Yes it IS nice to receive something in return for ones efforts, but it is NOT expected

If you feel you are not gaining the teaching you want here, then you are not looking hard enough, you're not listening clearly enough, and/or you are not seeking fully enough; Perhaps even you are not being receptive enough. Also, if you feel you are not learning anything of worth here, then you are free to seek elsewhere. We will not hold you here if you do not want to stay.

One other thing you really need to understand is that if you are trying to bait people into getting into an argument, then you will be unceremoniously shown the door and ejected forthwith. We are not adverse to arguing a point, but healthy debate is what it should be. DO NOT TRY TO TAKE IT FURTHER!

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